Well, look at the world. Everyday people are finding new ways to be stupid, one of the more recent ground swells of stupidity is heterophobia. Come on, seriously. I've found that this is becoming progressively more common among a certain group of people. Who are these people?
Not feminists fighting suppression in a patriarchal society and not homosexuals that have been beaten by insecure morons. No. The new stupid is being perpetrated by the self proclaimed intelligentsia of modern society. The geek.
I'm talking specifically about the male geek. The kind of person that eschews all forms of exercise (with the sole exception of lugging their pc to a LAN). The kind of person that has to check www.weathersa.co.za to find out if the sun is shining.
You know what? I fucking like rugby and rock-climbing and when I go to the gym I prefer hitting the punching bag and weights to nancying around with a fucking palates ball and doing yoga. I know how to use a screwdriver outside of unscrewing the lid of my computer case. If I decide to do some DIY why the fuck does it illicit responses like "Oooooh, macho man"? I can't help it if you don't know which end of a fucking drill to use. I enjoy carpentry, I've built half the furniture in my flat and that gives me satisfaction. I also sit in the middle of my industry, I'm not a crotch stratching, ass-baring builder but neither am I an interior designer. It's called being a balanced human being, why don't you try it some time and stop being an idiot?
Last point to mention. I've polled around and none of my female friends find me aggressively heterosexual or overbearingly macho, just a few geeks who probably feel that they aren't macho enough.
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"Aggressively Heterosexual" - I like that.
So, does doing DIY and knowing how to build/paint/saw etc. make one a man? Interesting... I think I might have a problem there!
Seriously, I get what you're saying, and it is irritating. Someone needs to slap all the uber sensitive in touch with their feminine side guys and tell them to tone it down a bit too.
But conrad you are a "macho man", your'e loud, opinionated and unapologetic (used word to spell that) About it.
So stfu and suck it up sunshine.
The fact that you are a rugby adoring carpenter s'just your genes fighting back. And your a closet yuppie.
p.s - Ohh and said geeks also have chronic mastubation issues. So that and carrying their pc's to LAN's
Heh equal opportunity sniping s'great.
P.P.s - My spelling is getting worse every day.
I enjoyed reading this post, but disagreed with the use of the term heterophobia.
I think there are 2 distinct issues here. A man can be heterosexual and still vary in the amount of machismo he displays, or in the degree to which he self-identifies with traditional masculine characteristics.
Men who react negatively to these characteristics may simply feel boxed in by them, oppressed even. Just as the feminists fought the patriarchy partly on grounds that it wrongfully controlled and limited the ways in which they could behave and think as women.
I would not call opposition, even aggressive opposition, to machismo heterophobia. I would apply that term to those "wannabe liberals" who feel that being heterosexual is boring and necessarily conservative, and therefore try their damndest to prove that they aren't straight.
I do agree that you should not be made to apologise for your interests and hobbies. I thought what you had to say bore a resemblance to those women who do choose, of their own free will, to dedicate their lives to their children, and then feel demonised by their "sisters" for it.
The point is that it IS a choice. I don't think any slapping of "in touch" men is required. Nor do I think it is right to praise our DIY women while we slap our DIY men. Saying men nowadays can't behave in way X because they are men, is just as stupid as saying that it is the only way in which they can be men.
I don't think that Heterophobia is a bad term.
Princeton definition of masculine:
# maleness: the properties characteristic of the male sex
# the trait of behaving in ways considered typical for men
So, when talking about stereotypes then the term "masculine" is fairly interchangeable with male heterosexual, at least in a classical sense. Besides, it sounds better than machophobia.
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